Dear Peggy,
I am writing to thank you for making the birth of our
third child one of the greatest experiences of our
lives. I would also like to offer a strong
testimonial to all expectant parents who are
considering home birth. Lets face it dads, we are
experts at finding the easiest possible way to get
something done. Homebirth is definitely "The easy
way!"
On January 18th, 2008, I came home tired from work at
about 8:00pm. My wife had fixed me dinner and
complained that she had been having some really
intense contractions. We sat down together after I ate
and began to play a game of SORRY. As we played her
contractions grew stronger and she asked me if I
thought we should call Peggy. After timing her
contractions, we called.
At that point, our two daughters, ages 8 and 5, were
sound asleep in their beds. If we had had to go to the
hospital, I would have been waking them up, packing
the car, making phone calls to my mom, and trying to
rush to the hospital. Instead, we spoke calmly to
Peggy, who told us to time the contractions and call
her back in an hour. We calmly sat and played another
game of SORRY.
After an hour, we felt that this was the real thing.
Peggy said she would get her assistant Tierny and they
would be on their way. In the meantime, I waited
calmly with my wife. As my wife's contractions grew
stronger, she asked me to boil some water and get out
the birthing kit. I started making preparations but
told my wife "Ive read the instructions on delivering
the baby, but I am NOT ready for the quiz. Please hold
off until Peggy gets here!"
Not long after making the call, Peggy and Tierny
arrived at our home. They checked my wife's vital
signs and her cervix. Everything was progressing
normally as Peggy got everything ready. All we had to
do was wait.
The house was quiet around midnight as my wife and I
paced back and forth in the bedroom. I could not help
but remember being in the hospital at this point with
our other two births. In stark contrast, the hospitals
would have kept us waiting in the lobby for a while as
someone would be frantically typing insurance
information into a computer and searching for an
available room. Then I would be navigating unknown
hallways looking for the room. After checking into the
room and my wife's arguing and extreme protests, a
nurse would come in and force a huge unwanted needle
into her arm, "just in case they may need to put her
on medication later." At that point she would have
already had several things forced upon her that she
did not want in an unfamiliar environment.
My wife and I continued to pace quietly in the peace
and quiet of our own bedroom as Peggy waited outside.
Between contractions we enjoyed our own choice of
music on the CD player and laughed about old memories
from when we first started dating more than 10 years
ago. I brought her frozen cubes of "laboraid" as the
contractions grew more intense. At 3:00am the labor
was very intense as I held my wife close to me and we
paced back and forth. Tierny came into the room and
could tell that my wife was nearly ready to push. The
pain my wife felt served it's purpose as it was
supposed to, causing her brain to release chemicals
that helped her deal with the pain and that would
stimulate her body to push the baby out. Tierny told
my wife that if she could rotate from lying on her
back to being up on all fours, the baby would probably
come right out. My wife changed positions as Tierny
suggested, pushed one hard time, and the baby popped
right out as she said it would. I was completely
amazed. He had no foreign chemicals or drugs in his
perfectly healthy body, his skin color was fantastic,
his crying voice was very loud, and he was squeezing
my finger for dear life as he lay there on my very own
bed. My daughters came into the room and were
overjoyed at the sight of their new brother. They got
to be there as soon as he came into the world and I am
sure that they will never forget the experience for
the rest of their lives.
The last time we had given birth at a hospital, this
was the point when the nurse impatiently stood over
us, basically asking us to hurry up so that she could
take the baby away and test her hearing, blood, etc.
The nurse then took the baby away as quickly as she
could and placed her down in a plastic bed, devoid of
any human contact. As our daughter began to cry and
scream without any consolation for several minutes, I
asked the nurse if I could just hold her while she was
waiting for her tests. The nurse angrily responded
"She has no reason to cry, I haven't done anything to
her yet!" and then told me that I would have to wait.
Peggy and Tierny gently cleaned our new son Luke off
as he happily nursed for the first time. His eyes were
soon open as he gazed around inquisitively. After
nursing for a while, we laid him gently down on our
own bed as Peggy quickly weighed and measured him. All
of his vital signs were perfect, and he seemed very
content. My wife was doing very well, and very
relieved to have had the baby without incident. We
were able to avoid the countless germs and viruses of
the hospital that our home does not have, a huge boost
for our babies health.
After checking out my wife and the baby, Peggy
determined that everyone was doing great. Peggy and
Tierny packed up their things and headed home. We laid
down on the bed with our new son and the three of us
fell into a deep sleep. Several hours later my mom
showed up and cooked a huge breakfast for all of us to
enjoy. There was no packing and unpacking from the
hospital, no intrusions from dozens of nurses and
doctors, no paper work, no car seats to figure out. We
were chilling out at home and we were loving it.
There was simply no comparison between the ease and
simplicity of having a home birth versus the
stupendous hassle of going to the hospital. Knowing
what I know now, I would never dream of having a baby
any other way than at home...It was FANTASTIC!!!
Thanks again for making the birth of our son exactly
what it should be- a personal family memory of the
ultimate happiness between a newborn child and their
family. NOTHING could have been better!!!!
Thanks for an amazing experience, We love you!!!
Juan, Rachel, Eula, Pops, and Baby Luke!